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Planar wrote:You're currently my favourite poster, Avmilli. Keep it up.
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daunzila wrote: Oh man, day by day, and is harder because we dont live together, she lives with her mother, so i dont have that much time as i want with her, and now, sometimes, like last sunday, i was hoping we're gonna spend the sunday watching a movie, playing some boardgame and anything like that to escape from the cold day we had here but she just ditched me to go to the mall with some friends... you know, that kind of thing kinda kills you a little and it will became more and more routine, you're her old man fffs, shes obviously rather be with her friends than hang out with you hahaha so i had to remember how i was when young like her and how much i wanted my dad to just leave me alone hahaha

Dont get me wrong, i have an awesome father, my best friend till today, but at that time and age you need to be you, find yourself out of the house, prove yourself, rebel a lot, do idiotic decisions and all those thigs, as a father i think we have to be there, support her into taking her decisions, be there to defend when she needs but make her brave to defend herself when needed, be a friend when they need a shoulder to cry, be there, even when shes just ditching you out all the time :P

I tryed to make her into techno, shes not interested into that, but we got her into some drums class and she kinda liked that, shes into a heavy metal phase, finding what kinda of music shes like, its awesome, we had to cancel that for now because of the money, it break my heart but as soon as i got a new job shes gonna be back into that, if she wants, of course.

One of the more annoying thing is the eye roll... you have to stop, breath, think and try not to yell like an idiot hehehe
In fact, everytime i got an eye roll from her i think about how much sorrys i owe to my father from my own eyerolls hahaha

But i think we're doing fine, good days, bad days, we still have a lot of fun together,
i hope i could get the kind of friend relationship i still have with my father with her.
well, from what I read, this sounds like pretty much every decent relationship you can possibly have with a teen.
I mean, my sisters kids are all hitting their teenage years now, and it's funny how even the coolest parents are considered boring and stupid.
I mean, my oldest sister works hell hours as a nefrologist, but nonetheless still spends all her very little free hours to do fun stuff with her kids,
she's probably one of the least selfish people I know, and since they earn quite some money, her kids get to do a lot of cooler stuff than ours,
and yet, you see that blasé "rolling eyes" thing happen all the time.

I'm still considered "cool" by most of my nieces and nephews, but that's probably because I never do any effort to hide my drinking,
or that I still walk around with some earrings and stuff.
I just hope my nephews won't be coming to me one day to ask me about drugs, because my sisters know shit about all that,
and I'm a terrible liar... :lol:

My oldest daughter still considers me her big hero,
last birthday party she went to, she had a big crush on the older brother of her friend,
mainly because he could play piano very well ... :D
("almost as good as you daddy !", of course that's totally impossible with the more mileage I have, but haha, I was flattered)

Honestly, I think no one can avoid that blasé thing, but really, as long as the fights are kept to a minimum, I think you'll do fine.
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Planar wrote:You're currently my favourite poster, Avmilli. Keep it up.

the guy is totally my hero !
full of good advice, always constructive...

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ok, here's a good one that might put a smile onto your guys faces.
no idea if it has specifically something to do with gettin' older, but I certainly never had stuff like that happen to me when I was younger.
Maybe once or twice a joke in that direction, but never this blunt.

Last weekend, I was visiting an old friend of mine, couple years older than me.
Really wild guy, that only settled down his way.
Gone through 2 divorces, raised 4 children of which only one was his own...
Had lots of financial trouble in the past,
even once climbed out of a totally hopeless financial situation by combining 2,5 jobs while working on speed for like 1,5 years.

Since I only see him a few times a year, I always stay and sleep over
anyways, all of a sudden, his GF arrives,
and we're totally high on E,
and he starts to say stuff that suggests we'd just go and do his GF, the two of us, together.
Now, my friend has never been the most subtle person.
A gentleman for women, yes, but not the most "mildly languaged" person.

So, basically, when I heard the 1st remark, I already felt pretty uncomfortable,
but his remarks just kept getting worse, and whatever she was saying to him, I couldn't even hear it,
but obviously she wasn't disagreeing either... :?
When she finally went upstairs, she gave ma kiss and said "maybe see you later" ?
And I just mumbled something...

I mean seriously... what's going on with folks nowadays.
If, and I do say a big IF, I would ever do such a thing, I doubt it would be with people I know very well,
especially not since his GF is married to a cop FFS... :lol:

When you see the "intro" to that stuff in porn, it all seems so natural,
but I can guarantee you that this isn't the case in real life.

And now I still gotta find the proper words to explain to him that I don't want to end up in the same kind of uncomfortable situation ever again,
"no hard feelings" and all (no pun intended :lol: )
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Hades wrote:ok, here's a good one that might put a smile onto your guys faces.
no idea if it has specifically something to do with gettin' older, but I certainly never had stuff like that happen to me when I was younger.
Maybe once or twice a joke in that direction, but never this blunt.

Last weekend, I was visiting an old friend of mine, couple years older than me.
Really wild guy, that only settled down his way.
Gone through 2 divorces, raised 4 children of which only one was his own...
Had lots of financial trouble in the past,
even once climbed out of a totally hopeless financial situation by combining 2,5 jobs while working on speed for like 1,5 years.

Since I only see him a few times a year, I always stay and sleep over
anyways, all of a sudden, his GF arrives,
and we're totally high on E,
and he starts to say stuff that suggests we'd just go and do his GF, the two of us, together.
Now, my friend has never been the most subtle person.
A gentleman for women, yes, but not the most "mildly languaged" person.

So, basically, when I heard the 1st remark, I already felt pretty uncomfortable,
but his remarks just kept getting worse, and whatever she was saying to him, I couldn't even hear it,
but obviously she wasn't disagreeing either... :?
When she finally went upstairs, she gave ma kiss and said "maybe see you later" ?
And I just mumbled something...

I mean seriously... what's going on with folks nowadays.
If, and I do say a big IF, I would ever do such a thing, I doubt it would be with people I know very well,
especially not since his GF is married to a cop FFS... :lol:

When you see the "intro" to that stuff in porn, it all seems so natural,
but I can guarantee you that this isn't the case in real life.

And now I still gotta find the proper words to explain to him that I don't want to end up in the same kind of uncomfortable situation ever again,
"no hard feelings" and all (no pun intended :lol: )

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that's exactly what I was telling myself with every bathroom break I took,
and I sure as fuck took 3x more bathroom breaks than I usually do.

Still happy today that I just blatantly ignored all his comments...
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ever been in similar situations Steve ?
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3somes?

Yes, only once 2M 1F, it was a long time ago, and never again.
Seeing your mates orgasm face is just wrong.
Needless to say we are no longer in touch.
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Lost to the Void wrote:3somes?

Yes, only once 2M 1F, it was a long time ago, and never again.
Seeing your mates orgasm face is just wrong.
Needless to say we are no longer in touch.
had the offer before when I was younger, but never by really good friends,
and never that urm, straight-forward, you know ?

well, nonetheless thank you for the info though. :)
still wondering now which words I'm gonna use to tell him that bit of good news... :)
damn that was strange... :shock: :|
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I remember it being reall weird.
We were spit roasting this lass (apologies ladies) , and my mate kept looking at me with a big grin, saying this is fucking awesome.
I remember thinking shut up, i dont need commentary, or your big grinning mug.
He loved it. I just felt fucking awkward afterwards.
Nope, not again, one to tick off I suppose.
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Lost to the Void wrote:I remember it being reall weird.
We were spit roasting this lass (apologies ladies) , and my mate kept looking at me with a big grin, saying this is fucking awesome.
I remember thinking shut up, i dont need commentary, or your big grinning mug.
He loved it. I just felt fucking awkward afterwards.
Nope, not again, one to tick off I suppose.
god no, now you're putting images in my head... :? :lol:

no doubt my friend would behaved exactly the same way,
grinning and feeling good about himself...
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youtu.be/2h3ws08SV20

still a year younger than CK here, and luckily I've aged better. Not that I'm a looker, but I seem to get more attractive for women than in my younger days, that's at least one advantage for me. On the other hand, had to give up football and other impact sports due to torn knee ligaments and meniscus earlier this year, that sucks and besides, I wasn't as fluid as in my early 30s, those were the days...
but there are way worse things.

no threesome as of yet, and no intentions in that direction at all, thank you!
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borg wrote:youtu.be/2h3ws08SV20
I wasn't as fluid as in my early 30s, those were the days...
wait man, Louis CK is complaining here about blatter control.
you say you're not as fluent now as in your early 30's ?
I'm glad I had you over when you were already in your 40's ! :D ;) ;)
borg wrote: no threesome as of yet, and no intentions in that direction at all, thank you!
well, trust me when I say I had (and still have) no intentions in that direction either... :shock:
funny enough I have another offer from a totally different side,
which, yeah, I still have no intention on taking up,
but yeah, it does make you wonder about certain things you took for granted...

note to all youngsters jerking off to threesome porn video's : this is NOT how it works in real life.
You just wait till you're all wrinkled, and your blatter is totally out of control,
and you fall asleep with your mouth open before your mrs can even take off her bra,
and you lost your false teeth inside your women's cunt last time you tried to eat her out in 1973,
then... all of a sudden... you get all the offers,
and the people with shares in viagra thought of all that while you're having a heart-attack taking them up on their lovely offers... :? :lol:
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Hades the sex god... :lol:

Actually I don't have a problem with getting older. It's the first time in my life (except childhood) where I'm somewhat stable. Been a very self destructive person in my late teens and twen's. That changed when I met my missus who was in the same mindstate at that time (heavily involved in Berlin's Psychobilly scene, these guys and girls don't take half steps when it comes to drugs and things).

I never had a cool job nor good income, a few debt's, lived in squats, heavy drug abuse, had to steal food etc. When she became pregnant it all changed instantly. Missy finished archeology studies within a year, I took a second apprenticeship which ended in a job with very good income we both just going on very well, trying to be loving and caring parents.

Might sound pathetic but I do often think my kid saved me from going down that dark spiral further and further. Apart from a few back problems my life couldn't be better at the moment.
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Mono-xID wrote:Hades the sex god... :lol:
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man, you can't believe how annoyed I am with that kind of stuff, tbh,
it's just embarrassing shit really...
Mono-xID wrote: Actually I don't have a problem with getting older. It's the first time in my life (except childhood) where I'm somewhat stable. Been a very self destructive person in my late teens and twen's. That changed when I met my missus who was in the same mindstate at that time (heavily involved in Berlin's Psychobilly scene, these guys and girls don't take half steps when it comes to drugs and things).

I never had a cool job nor good income, a few debt's, lived in squats, heavy drug abuse, had to steal food etc. When she became pregnant it all changed instantly. Missy finished archeology studies within a year, I took a second apprenticeship which ended in a job with very good income we both just going on very well, trying to be loving and caring parents.

Might sound pathetic but I do often think my kid saved me from going down that dark spiral further and further. Apart from a few back problems my life couldn't be better at the moment.
I think I can say pretty much the same thing. Though of course I was never as self-destructive as you were Mono.
I mean, becoming a parent really makes you think twice about everything,
and makes you get your shit together...
Seriously, just thinking practically, you can't be high on drugs when you have your kid(s) at home.
Even if they're in bed at night.
What if they suddenly fall ill and you gotta drive them to the emergency room or find a doctor on guard.
You just can't take risks like that, because if you do and something goes wrong, you're just fucking doomed,
you'll have such a huge bag of guilt to carry on your back for the rest of your life, that you can consider your life to be over.

Another thing that really made me get my shit together, is getting back into music production.
Seriously, at some point in my life, when I was like 24 or something, and a walking weed-plant.
I remember thinking "why do I always sedate my brain instead of cultivating it" ?
And yeah, since I really dived into sound design the first 2 years or so, I needed to have a more clear head.
And you just know that the first few years that you're making music, you're still learning so much shit,
that it goes so much better with a clear head...
I mean, you're always learning new shit, but never so much so fast as the first few years that you're into this thing.
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You boring bastards.
Drink gin and riot.
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Lost to the Void wrote:You boring bastards.
Drink gin and riot.
I still do but I make sure my kid isn't around. Missy is tolerating the habits I got. But whenever I get in 'pre-parent' mode I make sure to stay at a mates flat for the weekend or when little Mono is on a visit at Grandmom's house.
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Mono-xID wrote:Hades the sex god... :lol:

Actually I don't have a problem with getting older. It's the first time in my life (except childhood) where I'm somewhat stable. Been a very self destructive person in my late teens and twen's. That changed when I met my missus who was in the same mindstate at that time (heavily involved in Berlin's Psychobilly scene, these guys and girls don't take half steps when it comes to drugs and things).

I never had a cool job nor good income, a few debt's, lived in squats, heavy drug abuse, had to steal food etc. When she became pregnant it all changed instantly. Missy finished archeology studies within a year, I took a second apprenticeship which ended in a job with very good income we both just going on very well, trying to be loving and caring parents.

Might sound pathetic but I do often think my kid saved me from going down that dark spiral further and further. Apart from a few back problems my life couldn't be better at the moment.
It's fucking weird for me to read that. You don't come across as ever being a destructive person and all the other things you described.
Sure I could imagine that you can wreck some crazy party funk every now and then but between the takes being mostly steady.

But then again I know tons of people who been in all sorts of trouble and situations that turned it all upside down later on.
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Mattias wrote:
It's fucking weird for me to read that. You don't come across as ever being a destructive person and all the other things you described.
Sure I could imagine that you can wreck some crazy party funk every now and then but between the takes being mostly steady.

But then again I know tons of people who been in all sorts of trouble and situations that turned it all upside down later on.
Well, you have to consider that when we met in person at Tresor and later in Warsaw, my son was 5 years old already. So I changed long time before we met.
But trust me when I tell you that I had some hard times with heroin (no needles though) and other down dragging shit.

Sometimes it's still hard to keep myself under control and I'm amazed by myself how I'm able to manage it all. But yeah, like Hades and Steve, it all comes down to missy as she is the most honest,most supporting and most encouraging person I've ever met and I'm not willing to disappoint her in any way. She knows that I need to step out of this world every now and then.

Writing this, I'm preparing for FUSION festival this weekend. 4 days of Techno,Psytrance,Reggae,Ska,Ambient,Punk/Hardcore,Indie Alternative, Sideshows and weird art with 80000 people. Yaaay...Haven't been there since 2008 so I'm quite excited.
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Mono-xID wrote:
Sometimes it's still hard to keep myself under control and I'm amazed by myself how I'm able to manage it all. But yeah, like Hades and Steve, it all comes down to missy as she is the most honest,most supporting and most encouraging person I've ever met and I'm not willing to disappoint her in any way. She knows that I need to step out of this world every now and then.
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God yes, if I didn't have a mrs that I couldn't be 100% myself with, I couldn't have a long-term relationship.
She knows everything I do, and she let's me "step out of this world" once in a while. 8-)
The friend I talked about above was once married with a woman who didn't even knwo he smoked pot, so he literally had to go out for a walk every evening just to smoke a joint... Jezus, no wonder they got divorced after 2 years or so... :roll: :lol:

And talking about escapism, the only drug I really have to watch out for in the long run is alcohol.
Of course I never tried heroïn, but pretty much all the rest,
and the thing is that when you have kids, and you don't smoke, your options aren't exactly very big.
I mean, the only thing you can grab that everyone everywhere won't ever question is alcohol.
It's sometimes scary how our whole world just accepts it as totally normal everywhere.
And I'm a hyperactive bastard with an über-hyper-active brain, so yeah, it's an excellent way to calm me down a bit. :)
Like Homer Simpson says : "it's the cause of and solution to all life's problems" :lol:
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